Don't Forget About Dad ...
Although he is the love of your life, you may find yourself with a little less time and energy than what you once had with your significant other. For the last several months, chances are the spotlight has been on you and your growing belly. What about him? Just as you have been changing, so perhaps has he. Now that you are all home, it's time to ensure that you are working as partners with your new family.
First of all, be sure you and any additional help (i.e. your mother, sister, friend, etc.); include your sweetie-pie in the day-to-day interactions and responsibilities of your new baby. Yes, you may find that he doesn't have as much ease in handling this newborn. He may also do things differently than you or other caregivers. Watch your words and actions. Avoid criticism or advice unless the baby's safety is involved.
Be sure to take time to schedule a "date". It's important to continue your life as a couple though you may find your responsibilities and day-to-day roles changing. If you are not ready to leave your infant in someone else's care to "go out on the town", that is okay. The day will come when you will be ready. In the meantime, enjoy a date at home. Pop in a movie during a quiet morning or evening. Have one of you run out for an ice cream treat that you can enjoy together. Or, simply sit and talk holding hands for a few minutes at the end of the day.
Now may be a good time to touch base and talk about where you are and where you would like to be. Though your priorities have changed, keep your dreams together alive and make time to plan and prepare for your future. It is especially important during this time that you talk honestly about your current financial plans. Be cautious not to add blame or pressure caused by financial stress. Remember, you are both working to adjust to new responsibilities and/or the impact of medical expenses on your family budget.
Finally, keep in mind that your significant other is also experiencing significant change within their life. Like you, the changes they experience may include physical and emotional stresses. As your child grows, remember that the two of you started down this path together and how important it is to continue walking hand in hand through this journey ahead.
