Success in Working Through Stress
Author: Jeannie Fleming-Gifford
Financial challenges. Health issues. Family relationships. Work environments. The list goes on and on. There are many things that can provide stress to adults on a daily basis.
From the big stuff to the small potatoes, trying to manage it while still maintaining patience and peace can sometimes be difficult. When challenging times arise, it is important to step into the shoes of your child and realize they may not be able to comprehend the situation. It may not be appropriate for them.
So, how do you work through these times? How do you keep balanced when you feel out of whack? How can you manage your stress level in order to avoid having a negative effect on your child? It can be done!
- First, keep perspective and breath deep. Sometimes, things are terrible. But, even when they are bad, it's all about attitude. Stop. Take stock of what is going on. What can you change? What can you not? Accept and make a plan for both.
- Second, use your resources. There are times when stress levels will get in the way. There may be days when you need help. Realize that is okay and reach out. Whether it is family, friends, or a neighbor, use the resources you need to take a break. Take care of yourself or someone else, and make sure your child is also taken care of. It is okay to admit that sometimes you cannot do it all.
- Third, when you are with your child, focus on them, not the problems at hand. As mentioned previously, many issues we face in our lives are not "kid-friendly." When a child is very young, they most likely cannot comprehend some of life's happenings that provide stress in our daily lives. There is no need to share these negative aspects. Leave stressors at the door and connect with your child. If you feel the environment is stressful, work to "bring it down a level or two." Participate in quiet or peaceful activities such as reading books, working with art materials, or simply enjoying some fresh air by playing or walking outside.
- Fourth, remember, "This too shall pass." Whether it is the daily stress of managing a household or working at a job outside the home, or it is a larger stressor that is life-changing, it is important to keep in mind the health and well-being of your child. As a parent, you must work to provide an example of navigating "life's bumps."
By focusing on taking care of yourself and your family, you will minimize the impact of stress in your life and in your child's.
