Journeys

Monday, June 07, 2010
by Jeannie Fleming-Gifford

I started this blog here: www.planningfamily.com/blog/baby-steps/. We've come a long way, baby.

Where are you in this journey? Where are you going? How are you going to get there? How are you going to get your child there?

Parenthood. There is A LOT that is unpredictable, and, perhaps, uncontrollable. Kiddos get sick. They get hurt. Sometimes, their needs are tough to figure out.

As I mentioned in the first days of writing, I *thought* I was prepared for this journey called parenthood. *Thought.* Oh, don't get me wrong, it's been a fantastic ride. You're a parent, you know what I mean. It's the kind of ride - like some of my favorites at the amusement park - that gets my heart pounding (sometimes my head too) and often wears me out.  Yet, I keep getting back on.

Articles, books and blogs are helpful (thank you www.planningfamily.com/). Sometimes friends and family have the insight I need. And, then there is the munchkin. There are many times SHE teaches me, SHE leads the way in this journey.

When was the right time to move her from a bassinet to the crib?

When was the right time to stop nursing?

When was she ready for her first group, social (playdate) experience?

When was she ready to potty train?

How and when should she move from her crib to a toddler bed?

And the list goes on...

These are the questions we all ponder. In child development, there are "developmental norms" (averages of when most kiddos do certain things/obtain certain skills).  Then, there is your child. Yes, pediatricians will pay attention to developmental norms. It's one way they have of tracking (healthy) growth and development. It's one way they have of ensuring that there are no medical issues. However, it's important to know that there are many, many children that will go outside or around these norms. They will surprise us. They will make their own paths. They will do things sooner. They will acquire skills later. Oh, yes, absolutely, if you are concerned, do ask your pedicatrician.  However, keep it all in perspective.

Think about where your child is. Where do you want them to go? What skills are they working on? What are they interested in? What are their reactions to things? For example, when my munchkin was ready to potty train, she started to bring me a diaper whenever she was wet. Recognize their cues, their actions and reactions.

They are partners in this journey.  I'm always surprised how much I learn about where she is and where she is going when I just take the time to stop and listen.

As always...enjoy the ride!

 

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